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Posted by Moderator-JB , Mar 14,2001,18:11   Archive
On page 6 of the current March/April BEBRF Newsletter, Louise Reno, state coordinator for N. Carolina talks about making a roster to be mailed out to those interested in her state.

To each of you who are representatives, attend meetings, have a pen, computer or telephone to communicate with: CONTACT YOUR STATE REP TO DO THE SAME.

Take this idea and run with it so fast it will make your eyes close :) It will spread awareness and open the door to those that feel isolated.
DO IT!

Judy
blkmn36@earthlink.net
Washington State

(If you live in the state of WA and have not received a private e-mail from me regarding this, please let me know.)




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Re : Support ... --- Moderator-JB
Posted by June in Toronto (June Floyd,June in Toronto), Mar 14,2001,18:35 Top of Thread Archive
Does this apply only to the U.S. of A. Judy?

June in Toronto




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Re : Re: Support ... --- June in Toronto
Posted by Moderator-JB , Mar 15,2001,17:00 Top of Thread Archive
June:

Absolutely not!

Just think of all the Blephros that are out there who have no computer. The support groups and Conference that I attended in California were woefully lacking in patients who had on-line access.

Any glimmer of light (certainly not flourescent :) that can be shed in the direction of those who are alone in their fight for sight must be done by those of us who understand and are willing to help.

e-mail me if you would like a copy of the form I'm using.

Remember how it felt when YOU knew no one who understood.

Judy
blkmn36@earthlink.net

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Posted by June in Toronto (June Floyd,June in Toronto), Mar 15,2001,19:25 Top of Thread Archive
Judy, I'm not sure what you want me (us) to do. I read the report by Louis Reno and it talks about a buddy phone system.
Our beb support group meets once, sometimes twice per year. I have offered my name and telephone number as a telephone contact for other beb'ers through this group - no takers. My name and tel no were put in a newsletter and asking others if they were interested in getting together (more often) in small groups, local to our area - no takers.
I do have one young man (in his 30's) telephone me very week or so - he has beb and called me after contacting the local Dystonia support group. He says `I'm his support group' - he doesn't attend any meetings, although I believe he did join BEBRF and gets the newsletter.
What to do now?

June in Toronto




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Re : Re: Support ... --- June in Toronto
Posted by Moderator-JB , Mar 16,2001,07:47 Top of Thread Archive
Many, especially after first contracting BEB, go into their shell of fear. After a while the realization that, oh no - this i with me for the rest of my ife.

All I'd like people to do is make your area rep's aware of what can be done

Judy




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Posted by Sally - in - Idaho , Mar 16,2001,18:00 Top of Thread Archive
Judy ... I don't believe there are any area representatives or support groups in the North Idaho (or the whole Idaho state, for that matter) nor the Spokane area. Don't know what I could do.

Sall in North Idaho near Spokane, WA




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Posted by Evelyn , Mar 16,2001,22:38 Top of Thread Archive
Hi Sally,
We hope to come to Spokane at graduation time. How far are you from Spokane?
I copied down what I thought was your email address, put itin my address book, but when I tried to email you, I got a mail delivery sub. So I must not have it right.
Evelyn



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Posted by Sally - in - Idaho , Mar 17,2001,22:59 Top of Thread Archive
Hi Evelyn ... About 50 miles from Spokane, more or less depending on which end you are in.

idaholt@nidlink.com I couldn't get your e-mail address to work either. Maybe you can send it to me.

Sally




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Posted by Evelyn , Mar 18,2001,02:41 Top of Thread Archive
Thanks, Sally. I wrote your address down, and will try it again.Mine is evied@earthlink.net
Evelyn

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Posted by grace anne , Mar 17,2001,03:45 Top of Thread Archive
Judy, everytime I have tried to contact my rep, Chris Runo, I keep getting my emails back that it's not deliverable. Almost everyone's phone number is long distance for me and that could really rack up. That's why I rely on email to keep in touch with BEBers.

graceanne in port orchard




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Posted by Moderator-JB , Mar 17,2001,08:03 Top of Thread Archive
Grace Anne:

They have a new e-mail address but as I've never had any luck getting a response back from them except by phone that's the only way I've talked with them.

cdrun53@msn.com

I just sent 175 of the forms to them yesterday.

Judy




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Posted by Joanne Johnson (joanne johnson,Joanne Johnson), Mar 17,2001,12:54 Top of Thread Archive
Grace Anne, although I have telephone service through AT&T, I use 10-10-811-etc. for long distance. It is 5 cents a minute 24/7 and makes calling long distance very affordable.



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Posted by Sally - in - Idaho , Mar 17,2001,23:02 Top of Thread Archive
Some of those phone cards that are sold in stores are very reasonable, also. A friend told me today that she had purchased one at Costco (I believe she said a $20 one, but not certain) ... anyway, she said it figured out to 5 cents per minute. I am going to check into that as our rate is 10 cents per minute, 5 cents on Sunday.

Sally in North Idaho

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Posted by Joanne Matuzas , Mar 15,2001,17:59 Top of Thread Archive
Judy, will see what I can do about this...Joanne M. San Diego, CA



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Posted by Joanne Johnson (joanne johnson,Joanne Johnson), Mar 16,2001,12:55 Top of Thread Archive
In response to the postings regarding support for BEB sufferers, I would like to say that this BB was very instumental in helping me accept this disorder, while not feeling alone. I think as you work through the issues, your initial needs are lessoned. As a result, people move on. I don't think it has anything to do with "us" in terms of not being able to retain people either in the support groups or on this BB.



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Posted by Delaine Inman , Mar 17,2001,10:16 Top of Thread Archive
I think that is true. Some of the people I've talked to who have found something that is helping them lead a fairly normal life say they just don't feel the need for BB, but do get the newsletter. In 12 Step programs that happens and honestly I think for many there does come a time if you are doing well you need to move on and not get stuck. For others who truly feel they can still be there to help others even when they themselves are doing well, it is a blessing for them to help others and they are not stuck. I think it is different for everyone. I love hearing from people in remission or who are doing well. Since I've started support group and been involved with BEBRF I get a ton of calls every month from people who really need someone to talk to and I sure remember being in that stage, so it isn't a burden to me. It helps give meaning and purpose for the things I have and still go through. For others that might be too much stress to get all those calls. We all have to do what feels right for us to do or not do.



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Posted by Sally - in - Idaho , Mar 17,2001,23:14 Top of Thread Archive
Delaine ... I think you are correct in stating that many people just need to move on, while others can stay around and support new "victims." After our son was killed in 1978, my sanity (and possibly even my life) was saved by becoming involved with a support group called The Compassionate Friends (for parents who have lost children). I only attended the large group meetings a few times, but met some very special mothers that I became close to and kept in contact with for many years. I felt a need to "pay back" for what I had received, and was on call to talk with or visit newly bereaved parents who asked the directors for help. This can be terribly draining and emotional, but serves a purpose. I no longer do this on any regular basis, but am always available if asked. I do feel that I have grown in spirit and strength and become able to get along without the continual support of persons in the same situation.

Some people do not have the time fo give to others, and some people just plain and simply do not care to share of themselves. I hope to stay around here as long as I can be of any help to those struggling with BEB, even though I have accepted and am adapting to the limitations it has placed on me.

Sally




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Posted by June in Toronto (June Floyd,June in Toronto), Mar 17,2001,10:03 Top of Thread Archive
Judy, what I did was to e-mail our beb reps, who live out of town, and ask them to ONCE AGAIN to try and get a phone buddy system going, or to see if anybody wants to meet for a coffee in local areas for support. Our beb support groups meets once, perhaps twice per year only - but they do have a meeting at the end of April (I can't go as I'll be away then), so perhaps they can mention it at that meeting. I'll keep trying

June in Toronto




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