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Posted by r coutant (R COUTANT,r coutant), Oct 17,2001,12:24   Archive
After 2 months & a week past my injections I had a spasm & nearly wrecked the car. I made an appointment for injections for the following week. (My doctor told me he would give them to me early if they were debilitating). I said they were. In fact the BEBs then
were few & infrequent.

Yesterday the time arrived for the injections. I had a BEB on
the way home & I hit a parked car, which in turn hit a parked car.

I guess I shouldn't drive the minute I have a spasm.

I'm so very sad.

rhonda




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Posted by Moderator-JB , Oct 17,2001,13:00 Top of Thread Archive
Rhonda:

Are you ok? Hopefully the cars were the only ones hurt! They are easily mended.

There comes a time for many, perhaps more of us, when it becomes abundantly clear that we should not be driving. Though I don't really know you, I can hear you clearly saying - but I need to be able to drive!!!!! Certainly each and every one of us have uttered the same objection.

Especially on your Botox day, get someone else to drive you. You never know how you may react to the shots at any given time.

Something to think about ~

Since you will be required to fill out a vehicle accident form it will be necessary for you to state why you hit another car(s). That is not good news to your insurance company, the State Patrol and ultimately your pocket book.

Take care,

Judy




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Posted by Ann Doyle , Oct 17,2001,18:01 Top of Thread Archive

I agree with Judy, there are times I cannot drive for 2 or 3 weeks out of 12. It just isn't worth hurting a child. My awakening was when I ran over a curb. Ann D.




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Posted by Kelly Saffell , Oct 17,2001,14:34 Top of Thread Archive
I am so sorry to hear about your wreck. We have all had close calls, near misses, and minor scrapes to say the least. I hit a curb a couple of years ago and blew out 2 tires with my kids in the car ( they were 4 and 1 at the time). I have also hit my trash can pulling in and out of the drive a couple of times. Now that I don't have the 2 hour round trip commute to work I don't drive alot but I do have to drive some and I have been lucky. When we have kids to take care of sometimes it just can't be helped. I'm 3 weeks away from my next injections and my eyes are horrible (it's only been 5 weeks). It is very scary to have parts of our lives stripped away, leaving us feeling helpless. I fell last night going up the stairs to put the girls to bed - thank goodness I wasn't going down! Please take care of yourself and remember that your family needs you safe and sound.

Kelly in Dallas




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Posted by Joann Humphrey , Oct 17,2001,16:05 Top of Thread Archive
So sorry about your accident. Hope you're okay. It's a real adjustment to have to rely on others for transportation, but sometimes we have to. Thank goodness I have a husband who is reluctantly willing to drive me around. With both of us retired we do have flexibilit with when & where we go.
Do take care of yourself.
Joann in Ft Smith, who's having trouble with the insurance co approving 3 clonazepam tablets per day which is what the dr. prescribed. We're taking a 6 day trip to Ariz & Las Vegas leaving Fri I've always wanted to see the Grand Canyon & this is my chance. I'll look back at your chats next weekend.



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Posted by Mindy , Oct 17,2001,18:46 Top of Thread Archive
Hi Joann,
I also always wanted to see the Grand Canyon and went last November.
I absolutely loved it.
Have a wonderful and safe vacation,
Mindy in NY



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Posted by Dee in OR , Oct 17,2001,17:53 Top of Thread Archive
Rhonda,

A few months ago I wrecked my car too but not because of a spasm, because of a bus! I hope you weren't hurt. It is so very hard to give up driving. I didn't drive for three years before I started getting botox. I had a neighbor (I am convinced she is an Angel!) who drove me EVERYWHERE. I felt so lucky. Perhaps you can find an Angel too. I know there are more out there. We even have some here on the BB!

You just anwsered my question! I have my botox appt. on Nov.1 and I was going to drive myself because I don't want to bother my husband on his day off. I know what he will be doing on his day off!!

Take care...Dee in OR




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Posted by Sally - in - Idaho , Oct 17,2001,19:18 Top of Thread Archive
There have been a few times when I had to drive myself to my Botox appointments. However, after last time I realized that wasn't wise because I was sound asleep before we got out of downtown Spokane on the way home (my husband was driving). I get my injections tomorrow and he is going to take me ... not pleased about having to, but I didn't have anyone else to ask. A friend has offered to do it anytime, but she then wants to go have lunch and stuff and I prefer to come right home and not have to socialize.

Sally in North Idaho BEB and some Meige




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Posted by Ann Doyle , Oct 18,2001,13:45 Top of Thread Archive
Sally, maybe if you took her up on her suggestion and fell asleep with your head in your soup; she would get the message or never offer again. Ann D.



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Posted by Ann Doyle , Oct 17,2001,17:57 Top of Thread Archive

Dear Rhonda, When my eyes are bad I drive on little used streets with plenty of parking places in case I need to pull over. I also drive on non busy free ways and by passes so I can pullover. Also use one finger to hold open my eye. Ann D. P..S. It's the pits but doable. Ann




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Posted by Delaine Inman , Oct 18,2001,09:19 Top of Thread Archive
There are some days I can drive and some days I can't. I try to keep my driving to 3 to 5 miles. Since I have my conversion van if I am having a great eye day, I have been able to drive for 30 min. to 2 hours. I try to have someone else with me who can take over if it is longer than 30 minutes. If my eyes start closing I begin to deep breath and make noises and sing high notes until I get home and then I thank God for getting home without hurting anyone. Because I am SSD I have access to the senior citizens van for transportation at $1.00 a trip if I need it. I have used it in the past to get to the doctor for Botox. BE CAREFUL. Glad you are ok. The loss of driving has been harder to deal with than the work part.......then I have to remember, many people never learn to drive and they survive. Friends and family really do mean it when they say they want to help. Let them! Also no one can read our minds, so if you don't feel like socializing on Botox day.....SAY SO....your friends and family need to know that and will respect it if you explain why. They don't understand unless we continually educate them as to what it is like for us.



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Posted by Ann Doyle , Oct 18,2001,13:39 Top of Thread Archive
Delaine what is SSd. I'm a senior citizen who has frequent periods when I can't drive. How do you get it? How does it work? Ann D.

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Posted by Christel-California , Oct 18,2001,13:00 Top of Thread Archive
Rhonda, I'm glad you weren't hurt and didn't hurt anybody else, that you would never forgive yourself for.
My wake-up-call came the day I spun out my car, ended up driving backwards across the road and coming to a stop with my rear wheels against the rail road tracks. Fortunately there was no traffic on the road or I would have surely had a bad accident.
I haven't driven since May of last year and miss it tremendously. Now my husband, who is retired, takes me everywhere without complaint.
I hope you have people in your life you are willing to help you out with driving.
The risks driving, when your eyes can clamp shut any minute without warning, are just too great.

Christel in CA.




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Posted by Ann Doyle , Oct 18,2001,13:48 Top of Thread Archive
Not driving is giving up a lot of our independence. Ann D.



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Posted by Evelyn , Oct 18,2001,16:53 Top of Thread Archive
When I had to give up driving, due to the results of blindness in one eye from Neuropathy, it was devastating. I was always a very independent person. It was my choice, but when I almost hit a couple of cars that passes on my left side, when they shouldn't have been passing in town, I decided it just wasn't worth it. I cried and gave my husband a bad time when he didn't want to go somewhere, but after a year or two, I finally adjusted. He's really very good about taking me when I want to go now. Giving up driving is really giving up a lot of independence, but look at the positive side....you don't have to watch out for all the self-centered, wild, crazy drivers anymore:)
Evelyn in rainy WA, where the stellar jays are having a ball with my bird feeder.



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Posted by coleen dennis , Oct 18,2001,20:44 Top of Thread Archive
Rhonda, Sorry to hear about your accident but so glad that no one was hurt. I haven't been driving since February and certainly do miss the independence that I had when I did. I am fortunate that I have two kids at home that work and go to school and I am sort of on their way. My husband drives me when it doesn't work with their schedules but it is out of his way and I do have to either go in early or wait around at times for a ride home. They are wonderful about doing it because they are aware that without the rides I would have to stop working and cut our income in half. I thank God that I am able to not drive because I know that with my eyes like this I would be putting others as well as myself at great risk.

Coleen in Central PA where the weather was breezy but beautiful fall weather.




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