Question: Do we coddle ourselves too much?


Posted by Sally - in - Idaho , Oct 23,2001,19:54   Archive
I've been reading the bulletin board nearly every day while the sciatica in my leg has had me gasping in pain at times, and I'm wondering:

1. Do we "coddle" ourselves too much with this disease? and ...

2. Do we spend too much of our time and thoughts relating every little pain, annoyance, symptom, discouragement and depression? OR ...

Is all this repeated relating and discussion of benefit to newer persons on the block?

It seems to me that most of us who do the major portion of talking and have been around here for several months, or even a couple of years, are either of retirement age or have been able to obtain disability and remain in the home out of the working world. Therefore, we must be under considerable less stress than those who have to struggle along and continue with outside employment.

I guess where I am going with this diatribe, if anyplace, is to say that I hope we "talkers" don't give the impression that our whole lives revolve around BEB and all its difficulties. I think most of us are simply attempting to give encouragement and hope to those newly diagnosed. On the other hand, is our devotion to the BB causing us to dwell too much on ourselves and preventing us from adapting and accepting as well as we should?

This really doesn't make a whole lot of sense, and perhaps I'll just blame it on the pain pills and end with that. Just muddling around in my mind.

Sally in North Idaho where the wind has nearly blown us into Montana today. I love Montana, too, but would just as soon not get there on a blast of dusty air.




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Re : Question: Do we coddle ourselves too much? --- Sally - in - Idaho
Posted by Christel-California , Oct 23,2001,21:17 Top of Thread Archive
Sally, no sooner do you feel a little better, you come out here and start trouble. What do you mean, do we coddle ourselves too much. Don't we deserve some coddling? If we don't, then who will, answer that one if you can. :-)

Christel in Ca. who is really happy that Sally's pain is diminishing




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Re : Re: Question: Do we coddle ourselves too much? --- Christel-California
Posted by Dee in OR , Oct 23,2001,22:46 Top of Thread Archive
I don't think we coddle ourselves too much, and I am worried about you Sally. I wouldn't want you to be blown into Montana or anywhere. Just GET BETTER.

Hugs,
Dee in OR




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Posted by kathy , Oct 24,2001,03:08 Top of Thread Archive
yes sally, what are we going to do with this sciatac nerve thing. are you just supposed to wait it out or what?



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Posted by Sally - in - Idaho , Oct 24,2001,11:04 Top of Thread Archive
"Wait it out" seems to be the consensus of two doctors. It's going on four weeks now and getting to be old stuff. I thought it was lots better yesterday, then WHAM. Had to get up and spend most of the night in a chair with the heating pad on my thigh and knee (which are the parts most painful). Oh well, this, too, shall pass.

Sally in North Idaho where it is a beautiful, sunny-blue day after all the wind of the past two days. That might be a good omen.




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Posted by kathy , Oct 24,2001,03:05 Top of Thread Archive
hell no! sally. i would like to think we are helping each other, i certainly have learned alot on this bb and would be lost without it. sometimes it's a pain in the... to read and post messages, because it hurts, at least my eyes , at times.



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Posted by joyce whitt/NC (Joyce Whitt,joyce whitt/NC), Oct 24,2001,10:44 Top of Thread Archive
No, this BB is like going to see a Psychiatrist except we don't have to pay what they charge. BEB is our life now and it is wonderful to know that we have a place to go - complain, cry, share and the best part - SOMEBODY UNDERSTANDS WHAT WE GO THROUGH. Our family and friends can't even imagine what we face each day.

When someone new posts we can at least let them know that we understand what they face and give them help and direction.

Joyce in NC - we are hoping to set a record weather wise today, it is suppose to get to 80 or above today. Next week however will be a different story - cold weather is coming.




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Posted by Christel-California , Oct 24,2001,10:51 Top of Thread Archive
You're absolute right Joyce and enjoy the good weather while it lasts.

Christel in Ca. where the wind is blasting today, ripping off all my flowers. :-(




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Re : Question: Do we coddle ourselves too much? --- Sally - in - Idaho
Posted by joanne matuzas (Joanne Matuzas,joanne matuzas), Oct 24,2001,15:42 Top of Thread Archive
Sally, I think we all are in a different place with regard to our personal lives, how we feel and how this disorder affects all our lives.
I don't believe we coddle ourselves too much. This bb serves an
invaluable function both in relieving stress of its contributors and
information and encouragement to newly diagnosed blephros. Sometimes
we need to be here, sometimes we need to back off--I believe it's all
ok and everyone is where they need to be. Perhaps if you feel like you
are coddling yourself too much, you may try a different approach as an experiment for awhile. Every so often, I have some down time on my job and am able to join you on the bb which works well for me. By the way, I haven't gotten a new friend yet since I don't really have the time now to invest in one the way I would want to. I'm gone during the day and sometimes for part of the evenings as well. I may wait until I
retire to adopt--just doing life a day at a time. Only God knows what tomorrow will bring. Take care. Joanne M. San Diego, CA



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Re : Re: Question: Do we coddle ourselves too much? --- joanne matuzas
Posted by coleen dennis , Oct 24,2001,19:24 Top of Thread Archive
How does one coddle themselves with something like this? I am finding it a real chore just to get up and go to work in the morning. I find that when you have a chronic condition that you have to really make sure you allow yourself time to de-stress. Just trying to do the day-to-day things is trying enough. I can relate to Joanne and friends. I find it hard enough to go to work, keep house, find time for my husband and kids. I too would like to do more with friends but I am either too tired or I can't drive to see them.

Ways I coddle myself are watching funny movies, listening to music and just spending downtime with the family. I have also decided today that I am going to think of myself first and take long weekends for the rest of the year before I have surgery and let myself rest. Only we know what this is like and what we must do to keep ourselves going.

Coleen in Central PA where it is nice today but the cold is coming.




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